Being Happy In Life III

 In my previous articles of Being Happy In Life I (https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2016/10/being-happy-in-life.html) and Being Happy In Life II (https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2025/02/being-happy-in-life-ii.html) I have discussed certain things about staying happy in life, like setting goals in life and working towards in achieving it help us to retain happiness in life. Then owning your own decisions and working towards becoming the best version of yourself in this process.

Now continuing to this i will discuss some more thing which help us to sustain happniess in human life:

1. Developing an Happy Temperament:

It is very important to have happy go lucky outlook towards life. And it is very important trait in life. In the previous times the general belief was the more serious the face the more intelligent and wise the person is. So in most of the photos we used to see those people were looking quite serious and not smiling. But I believe the seriousness, intelligence and the wisdom doesn't have as such connection with it. Seriousness on face could be just a form of facial expression that some people born with serious face or some with happy face. Sometimes we find that some serious looking people are quite dumb and some happy looking people are extremely wise. Timely i understood that the more intelligent and truly wise the person is the more that person understands to stay happy in life. And this understanding and realization help us to stay happy in life. In short the importance of happniess in life. But it is not like this ; that building happiness task can be completed in one day only. One can't develop such temperament in one day and retain the happy state of mind. We need to develop such temperament by working on us continuously for a longer longer time. Staying happy always doesn't mean you should be laughing everywhere like that but a pleasant, contented and enthusiastic mind is more important. 

The roots of such temperament is in childhood. A child is like an earthen ball. How the parents, teachers and the surrounding circumstances mould it, it becomes like that. A child should be loved a lot in the family. Children should be taught discipline till 6 years of their age because during that time they are still copying the habits, actions from elders and the people around them. The anti bodies get developed in the child till 12 years of their age. When the child grows up these anti bodies later protect that person from any external physical or emotional attack and that time the sternum bone vibrates and sends such signals to the brain of the person. A child who gets lot of love in the family when grows up becomes the sweet person in the society and become truly likeable in the society. A child who is brought up properly without any insecurity or lack of  love develops a secure heart in himself/herself. It means irrespective of the child is from poor or rich family it is expected to get love and good pampering from parents or parent. Such child when grow up understands the difference between what is to fear and what is not to fear in life. It helps the child to develop a fearless heart too. It is important to teach the children the importance of ethics in life. Living ethical life is a way to gain true happiness in life. Which i see missing these days and out of this only the child when grows up in a man/woman compromises the ethics to 'What's wrong?' to pamper their ego. And then this What's wrong turns into a horrible handling for that person, which leads to one type of continuous unhappiness in them. Constant communication of parents or parent with the children helps a lot in this process so the parents are expected to teach them importance of ethics, morals and not to follow silly trends. It helps the child to develop an ethical life. Constant communication of parents or parent with children lead them to become sensitive to the other's problems as well as help them to become the responsible citizen of the country. I believe that - 

In this era to live a life with values and principles is an expensive hobby of a person and anybody like that can't afford that. The special ethical person only can have it.

A fearless heart living with ethics and morals is easy to stay happy in life in the long run. One should be childlike, but not childish. The innocence like a child really helps the person in the life's journey. From the wise elders it understands to count his/her blessings in life, tries to become kind towards the less fortunate people in the society who are cursed by destiny, helps to become compassionate towards the other people. It is very important to become kind and compassionate towards others. But again there are limits to these good qualities also. Implementing these qualities in society make the person satisfied in life which help it to stay pleasant in mind. The child learns to embrace what God is given to him/her and it stays thankful to God for it. Teaching them importance of developing self esteem in themselves. A child or a person with low self esteem is prone to stay more often unhappy. With this the children to be taught not to give too much importance to their ego. Teaching them to let go of some things.

These days there is a new term is in picture that is 'Induced Poverty'. Some working parents can't allocate much time to their children and they may try to fill up that space by giving them whatever they demands. So the constant communication with the children may be missing. As well as the children are getting whatever they ask for so they are not able to understand how difficult it is to earn money and so they are not able to understand the financial crunch situation. So the induced poverty concept came. So those parents feel that they should make their children try to realize this thing by pretending in front of them that they lack money, this is called induced poverty. If they are successful later in this ; the children understands that there is something like this also, money is not easily available and so it helps them to control their demands as well as to empathize to their parents in this process. It may doesn't lead the children to feel disappointed as they could understand this concept, so timely if their demands doesn't get fulfilled they engage their mind in some other things also. But if they are not able to understand the induced poverty concept then if their demands are not fulfilled then they may timely get disappointed for their demands, become more aggressive and adamant to their demands and become nuisance to their parents.

2. Have Faith In God:

There would be different types of people in the world some who believe in God, some who doesn't believe in God. Some who believe in God and spiritual. Some who believe in God but not spiritual. Some who doesn't believe in God but practice some kind of meditation. Some who doesn't believe in God and not spiritual and believe in living the life without any values or principles. All the above types could be leading somewhere in life but i believe the last type is quite difficult because later in their life as they have goals to fulfill all materialistic demands in life, once that is about to complete later they don't understand what they would be doing next in their life. I personally have very strong belief in God. I believe one should have trust in God and should not believe in superstitions. The entire human beings in the universe are the children of the Primordial Mother i.e. Shri AdiShakti. As i  have borne in Hindu culture and got the spiritual knowledge from Hindu culture itself so can give references from Hindu culture itself. There is something as says to fear the God. It means one should fear God for not doing any unethical or bad thing. Whatever or how much the highest academic knowledge any person gains the knowledge is incomplete without the spiritual knowledge. The earlier in their life anybody understands the easier life's journey is for that person. I am talking about the true spiritual knowledge. Spiritual knowledge gives the person the peace of mind from the chores happening in the life of the person as it gives understanding to the person what the lifestyle the person should adapt to gain peace of mind while fulfilling his/her devoirs as an individual. But i believe that while fulfilling these devoirs it is not needed to leave the family life and do austerity. While staying in family life and being with your parents, siblings, husband, wife or children you can practice spirituality. Only the thing is that the detachment part is more difficult during this but not impossible. Somebody like to explore this then the example is Raja Janaka (Raja Janak was a king in Hindu culture and Hindu epic Ramayana and a significant figure in ancient Indian history. 

He was the father of Sita.)  Raja Janak who was Saint inside but outside he was a king and living a family life as well as ruling the Mithila Kingdom. Raja Janak was the first incarnation of Shri Adi Guru Dattatraya on earth. 

When the person has faith in God, it understands that there is some divine support system which can help it if it gets directionless in life, or something bad is going on in it's life. Even a simple faith in God work wonders for the person and it understands that it has blessings of God. Money is very important part of human life. But except earning money and running behind materialistic things all the time there is something more valuable in human life to put time into it also. It helps the person to live life religiously (here religiously doesn't mean sticking to particular religion. Here religiously means by following the principles of a human being; i.e. Human religion). Personally speaking since last 12 years i am practicing Sahaj Yoga meditation (Sahaja Yoga meditation can be practiced by anybody; a seeker after getting self realization from a Sahaja Yogi. The seeker could be of any age or gender, from any religion or from any country (https://www.sahajayoga.org.in/)). After starting with Sahaja Yoga meditation i understood that the spiritual knowledge is ocean itself and there is lot to learn from it. It makes the person enlighten. When Shri Krishna told Gita to Arjuna that time He understood that for spiritual understanding Arjuna himself is confused of what is dharma and adharma. And if it is the situation of the great warrior like Arjuna then what would be the situation of an ordinary human being so he explained everything in Gita to Arjuna which is ultimately to the entire humankind.

Scientifically also it is proved that practicing meditation enhances the mood of the person, relieves stress, increase productivity and motivates the person to try different things in life. As well as the people who practices meditation are more happy then others who doesn't practice it. So those people who practice meditation they are easy to stay happy. Only it should be true meditation. Now the divine knowledge or true spiritual knowledge is always free. Because it is the knowledge you have with you from your birth. So nobody should charge you anything to teach you that knowledge. In India at present in many schools and colleges Sahaj Yoga meditation is practiced. And Sahaj Yoga which is originated in India is already  being practiced in 240 countries abroad outside India. It's good that people are awakening to this trend of life.