Beyond Small Talk: The Impact of Mastering Communication Types III

Till now we have seen what is communication and what are the types of communication. In my previous article for series Beyond Small Talk: The Impact of Mastering Communication Types I https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2025/09/beyond-small-talk-impact-of-mastering.html i highlighted how the different human traits help to have good impact on communication skill and for then in second article Beyond Small Talk: The Impact of Mastering Communication Types II  https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2025/10/the-previous-blog-to-series-of-beyond.html i highlighted on professional traits. This article Beyond Small Talk: The Impact of Mastering Communication Types III breaks down the must-know factors that make or break your personal and professional communication.

Some of the factors which effects on the communication types are as below:

1. Speak Right: The Power of Words

2. Body Language: The Non-Verbal Flex

3. Listening Skill: Stop Waiting to Talk

4. Communicate with Confidence: The Best Ornament

5. Communicate with Gratitude

6. Communicate with Mindfulness

7. Decision Making

8. Communication in General

Now I will elaborate these factors more.

1. Speak Right: The Power of Words

Verbal communication through speaking or writing may create slightly different impact for the communicator for the result it produces. It all depends on what quality of words we use for this. Use of right, influential and gratitude words are very important in communication. I believe that -

Words are currencies with some low, medium and high values

When we communicate with others verbally that time what kind of words we use, it also matters a lot. When we speak to others or write to others that time, we may use words which could come in our mind spontaneously, thoughtfully or in haste too. So, selection of words is very important. I don’t mean to say every time much of the artistic or fancy words but as per the situation we need to use the right kind of words in that language. In a personal communication if I will use official shortcuts like ASAP, EOD, AFAIK then the other person may get bored or if ignorant of these shortcuts, then will feel confused. And vice versa in professional communication if I will use words which would be too personal for the opposite person where the communication is limited to professional relations then the other person may feel awkward to communicate further.

 

Your words set the tone. Use the right vocab for the room. Don't use office jargon (ASAP, EOD) in a casual chat, or super-casual language with your boss. But in right way as per the situation and the opposite personality and mindset if right words are used then it definitely creates good impact of your communication on others.

Like in friendly communication if I am open to share the emotions and my thoughts and other person is reciprocating to it then it creates a good conversation between two people and can strengthen the friendship or bond. In family when we talk to elders when we try to understand their point of views and try to adjust our thinking and actions with it, it strengthens the family bond with them. Wherever I am talking about communication here it always means a conversation between two or more people which is in synchronization.

So, selection of words while talking or writing to others is very important. But the important thing is here -

Try to eat that much only which you are able to digest

To impress somebody, somebodies or some situations don’t use the words which you personally don’t know the meaning of, or you are not able to pronounce it properly or don’t use the accent which you can’t handle it. Always try to be original and find the ways to strengthen your weaknesses based on that.

People can spot a fake; stick to your original style, then work on levelling it up. If you're stressed about a conversation (like a tough text or email), write it out a few times and filter it before you send. You'll get better fast.

Bottom Line:

Right words = good vibes and successful outcomes, even for low-probability work.

Wrong/powerless words = instant fail and confidence drain

To use the right words while conversing again comes to the point of having good knowledge about use of language, use of words, lessons learnt from past experiences and so the resulting wisdom.

2. Body Language: The Non-Verbal Flex

Your body language is your instant energy connection with the other person. It's the silent resume that shows if you're mature or immature.

While communicating some people use the body languages which shows their low confidence like biting nails while talking, getting scared while talking, stammering in between while talking, moving back and forth while talking, talking in low and high pitch while talking. etc. So, if one finds that the body language may not be right when they talk with others, they should work on themselves while consulting to experts in that area or reading specific books, practicing talking with family or friends.

• The Confidence Killers: Stop biting your nails, moving back and forth, or stammering. These are visual cues that scream low confidence.

• The Power Pose: Whether sitting or standing, stay steady and confident. Keep your back straight, shoulders level, and make direct eye contact. This shows you are present and secure.

• The Gesture Warning: A little hand movement is fine, but using gestures too often is seen as a sign of frustration—chill out

• Facial Expressions are Key: Don't mock or look furious if you disagree. Use positive facial expressions like timely smiling to show you're maturely engaging, not just reacting

3. Listening Skill: Stop Waiting to Talk

Communication isn't just about output (talking); it's hugely about input (listening). In the current "information ocean" era, everyone is knowledgeable and wants to share. Sometimes the problem of most of the people is that they don’t have good listening power. When they listen to others either they feel impatient to answer back, or the attitude like what this man/woman is talking; means they feel bored or if not agree with the communicator, then they get angry. But ideally it should not be like this.

• The Fail Mode: If you listen just to reply (or you're bored, impatient, or angry while the other person is talking), you are failing.

• The Win Mode: You must listen to understand and reciprocate—that’s what makes you a good listener. This shows patience and respect.

• Boundaries are Fire: Your patience might be tested by people who talk nonsensically or just keep going for hours, taking advantage. You need the courage to politely, but clearly, instruct them to stop or get to the point.

Some people listen just to reply or some people listen to understand and reciprocate. 

Bottom Line:

So i always say - When you become a listener to understand and reciprocate then you are called as a good listener.

4. Communicate with Confidence: The Best Ornament

Confidence is the key to any good communication. To mention one example. Suppose any person is on a morning walk and somebody passing by him asks the person “Hi, how are you?” Now the person who meets the other person may or may not likeable to him, now the person’s inner voice is willing to answer back that “Hi,I am doing good, I am feeling wonderful”. But somehow, he replies in low tone “ya..I am ok”. Now where the inner voice is gone? Who was eager to answer truly. It is the lack of confidence in that person who was not able to at least answer that he is in the best of his health. Because the person might think that if he will reply something quite enthusiastically; so something bad may happen to his health. So he doesn’t have courage to reply truly with confidence also. I am not talking about getting overconfident in general. But get the confidence in you to reply or talk truly. Like I always say –

Confidence is the best ornament you should wear daily

• Own Your Truth: Don't let fear make you understate how you feel or what you believe. Be courageous and reply truthfully with confidence.

• Manifest Good Vibes: Instead of worrying that something bad will happen if you speak your truth, focus on thinking only good will happen. This mindset boosts your confidence and helps you conquer small fears.

Final Thought:

Confidence is the best ornament you should wear daily. It's the foundation for everything else.

In this article I have explained some of these factors and the rest of the factors I will discuss in next article.