Managing Stress II

Disclaimer: This article doesn't suggest any medicinal things 

This article is in continuation of article ‘Managing Stress I’. Here is the link for the same https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2017/05/stress-management.html . In the previous article we have seen what is a problem, how stress is created out of the problematic situation. How to overcome mild stress symptoms and what is the general outlook and action plan should be to overcome it.

With continuation to this in this article we will see how the change in the lifestyle or some proven methods can help us to overcome stress in life.

Managing stress in life:

        a. Managing time

      b. Managing goals

      c. Managing relations with family and public

      d. Doing nothing at times

      e. How to stay happy while handling stress? 

a. Managing Time: 

We live in a competitive world. Most of the people are running in a rat race. There is one cartoon on rats with title 'Happy for money'. I once watched this cartoon on LinkedIn and found it quite interesting and the situation shown in the cartoon is same as the present human is running in competitive world. May be the rat race term came into use. That's why it is called most humans are running in rat race and so if you are not the one running in the rat race and focusing more on your self, your growth and your life living principles then you are lucky. I always believe that my competition is always with me only. And there could be lot of scope for improvement in various areas for me. Like i believe if you also think so then you are eliminating one stress factor from your life. But we see most of the people doesn't have patience to work hard and have general understanding of to work less and want results in instant time. In this if you are competing with others and part of rat race then it would be very energy exhaustive to you.  

Addition to that whether you are part of rat race or not everyone of us is somehow ignoring the peace of mind and physical health and wants to earn money and success. Everyone is complaining for time for completing the daily tasks. This creates stress. Take simple example of improper eating habits. Like reading newspaper while having breakfast, browsing mobile phone while eating food, eating in a hurry or eating lot of junk and processed food. Not following the meal time.

 Improper and hasty eating habits lead to different deceases in the body. This affects the mood and the working efficiency also. Person feel uneasiness, dullness and easily get tired. We should manage our time in a proper way so that we should not be in a hurry at least while eating food, while going to office or work or while doing our daily tasks. Every work has to be given some grace time by knowing your  weaker points. So the haste part can be avoided. When we talk with some wise old people; if they used to understand something they should act on ; so that it shouldn't happen again, the old habit or something. But the problem of this era is today if the youngster understands the problem and solution for it thereafter not able to take proper action on it. So the old habit recurs again and again and it gets stuck in the vicious cycle. You should understand your shortcomings and accordingly need to work on it. It is really going to reduce the stress in a major way.  

Same things apply to invest time in arranging meetings and completing our daily tasks in desired time. I feel we really have to plan grace time for each activity. It is also important to prioritize our work. The work which we don't like and take lot of time. That work should be completed first. But sometimes you need motivation too on those days you can do the work which you like and so that can be done earlier too. This way person can help to reduce his/her stress in much bigger way which is induced by not managing time. 

b. Managing Goals: 

Every person has some goals in life. It is very important that everyone should have some planned goals in life. This really helps the person to go ahead in life effectively. Working without any direction in life is not going to give fruitful results so always work in the desired direction. This does not create stress in life or reduce the intensity of stress in life. We can plan for yearly goals, monthly goals and weekly goals. This is also helpful. Other way if some person has a habit of writing thoughts or future goals in diary this also helps the person a lot in order to track the progress of the goals and to fulfil the goals. So with this only jotting down goals in diary won’t help but we should follow it and check the progress timely. But we must plan realistic goals not the unrealistic goals. We as humans can’t live in fantasies always.  

 

 

c. Managing relations with family and public:

In previous time say we look back before 50 years or something we find that those people who were living life they were not knowing what stress is. Actually tension was the word which was quite far from them. But in today’s world we see that most of the people talk about tension. Again there are multiple reasons for having tension in life. But one of that is communication or conflict with family members or outside family. In general we are going far from our parents, our siblings, our best pals in communication; though mobile and internet has reduced the distance between our parents, our family members and our outside world. Thereafter whatever past communication used to happen from elders to youngsters in the family in order to make them feel that they have quite secure support in their home. This feeling has taken a bit unrealistic mode in today’s world. I can understand that for a working man/woman how 24 hrs. passes he/she does not understand. The tasks are many and the time gets is less. At least we have boon of science in terms of internet and mobile to reduce the distance between our family members. But still that more of a face to face communication has taken a backstep. So many children, teenagers and youths also go through stress. 

Indian relations are known in the world for their firm bonding in family with affection and love. And it is really important. It is really important to know that a person has a secure healthy support in family. Family bonding is very important whether it is with your parents, your siblings, your husband or wife or with your children. This also helps the person to build a stronger mind and fight against stress. (Here you must know who are your true well-wishers, not the pretenders ). A friendly support from a true or best friend or timely communication, interaction of thoughts, interaction on present job or business trends, talking on diverse topics, as well as on your problems in life with him/her also help to reduce stress in life.  

While dealing with public relations we must understand where we are heading, what we are dealing with. When we deal with new personality always keep a clear mind in terms of thoughts. Don’t jumble with perceptions. Read the person a lot on how he or she talks, behaves and possesses the thoughts. Then come to the conclusion. Don’t come to conclusion so early that for some negative conclusions you need to repent in future. As again judging is a play. Whether it is related to person or situation. And this play works entirely as your thinking capability, understanding and experiences in life. So in the starting better not to have perceptions instead have an open mind. How we grown up, what the manners and the brought up gave us, it also makes a good personality. A self made strong personality benefits a lot in this process. This way we start respecting ourself and others. Which help us to live life happily. Conflicts with other personalities make you irritated and also continuous interaction with such people creates stress in you. If it is a daily thing then really it is going to disturb your peace of mind. As far as possible you can try to ignore the person or situation. But if it is mandatory to deal with, then build your mind strong and face it in a better way. Better try to do changes which you can; in your circumstances as per requirement while sticking to your principles, morals and ethics. It is said that - 

We can't change others but we can change ourselves

So better be like this. When we deal with others keep in mind, the surrounding, the situation, your expectations and other’s expectations. You don’t need to be more submissive or aggressive but always try to protect your self esteem and other's self esteem. Know the difference between your self esteem and ego. This will make you a healthy personality which will make you to reduce conflict with others and so the stress would be less.

 d. Doing nothing at times:

You will laugh at this as doing nothing at times. But yes it is needed. You feel more productive at these times when you do nothing, spare moments. We may hear this that of continuously studying something or other, learning something or other etc. ..etc. But by continuously learning something or reading something and other ; this mere thing don't take you much ahead in your life. In order to minimize stress in life this factor is also important of doing nothing at some times in a day. That time you can stroll, watch trees, birds, animals without your reactions. Don't react and don't give your judgement at that time. Just watch. It could be watching anything without reacting to it. Spend leisure time. This also helps a lot to reduce stress.

e. How to stay happy while handling stress? 

We have seen some things to change in our daily life to reduce stressful situations. If stress does not happen it`s good , could be rare thing and bliss but if it happens regularly then need to handle it. First of all find out the situation which causes you frequent stress. If it is your anxiety, unnecessary fear try to take it out from your mind. In this try some activities like reading books as per your liking, playing different games, overcoming the fear, boosting the self-confidence, growing morally and ethically, acquiring some hobbies will help you to keep yourself happy. Reading is such a activity that you will lose nothing but gain knowledge in multiples of it. It is necessary for a human being to cultivate his or her thoughts. Reading on personality development, positive thinking, positive living life, improving communication this type of literature really help you to build your self esteem and overcome fear from your mind. 

Once you will get the cause for having stress for the reason note down the causes and effective action on that. Try to cultivate a heathy mind. I believe in this that -  

A healthy mind is in a healthy body

So always try to maintain your health in a proper way. Health is really wealth which makes us enjoy the beauties of life. God has created this beautiful world for all creatures. So never compromise with your health. Whatever God has given to human being in terms of health that's it. Try to take care of it by not overburdening it. Try to live a happy life while completing your daily work in a more effective way. 

Even instead of asking this question why me for any unpleasant situation rather search what positive can come out of that situation and face it boldly. Every situation in life will teach you something for you. Actually keep an attitude of thanking God for whatever he has given to you because if you see people around you, you may find that some are more cursed than you. It says that -  

There are one lac people daily who strive to live a life that you live today. So thank God for everything you get in life.  

So welcome the problems with big heart so that you can find out ways to your problems with much confidence and positivity. This way you are really going to have a happy time throughout. While living life it is very important to stay happy in mind, enthusiastic in mind, honest to your work, having healthy communication with all people you know. This type of behavior boosts your self esteem and makes you happy. Be realistic, have faith in God, don't become superstitious but have faith in God. Have confidence in whatever you do. Try to know yourself and live life which is truly honest to you. Don't lie to yourself but have true feelings about what you do. If you know yourself you don't need to explain yourself to some other one. This alone feeling is going to create immense joy in your life.