In my previous articles of Being Happy In Life I (https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2016/10/being-happy-in-life.html) and Being Happy In Life II (https://chhayashinde.blogspot.com/2025/02/being-happy-in-life-ii.html) I have discussed certain things about being happy in life as how the childhood brought up help us to make our nature, the habit of looking at the positive things in every negative situation help us to learn something new from the situation.
In article Being Happy In Life II I have discussed some more things which really help us to create a happy life for us like Having Realistic Goals In life and Being Honest to Yourself.
Now continuing to this i will discuss some more thing which help us to sustain happniess in human life:
1. Developing an Happy Temperament:
It is very important to have happy go lucky outlook towards life. In the previous times the general belief was the more serious the face the more intelligent and wise the person is. So in most of the photos we used to see those people were looking serious. But I believe the seriousness, intelligence and the wisdom doesn't have as such connection with it. Seriousness on face could be just a form of facial expression that some people born with serious face or some with happy face. Sometimes we find that some serious looking people are quite dumb and some happy looking people are extremely wise. Timely i understood that the more intelligent and truly wise the person is the more that person understands to stay happy in life. In short the importance of happniess in life. But it is not like this that the happiness task can be completed in one day only. One can't develop such temperament in one day and retain the happy state of mind. We need to develop such temperament by working on us continuously for a longer time. Staying happy always doesn't mean you should be laughing everywhere but a pleasant and enthusiastic mind is important.
The roots of such temperament is in childhood. A child is like an earthen ball. How the parents, teachers and the surrounding circumstances mould it, it becomes like that. A child should be loved a lot in the family. Children should be taught discipline till 6 years of their age because during that time they are still copying the habits, actions from elders and the people around them. The anti bodies get developed in the child till 12 years of their age. When the child grows up these anti bodies later protect that person from any external physical or emotional attack then the sternum bone vibrates and sends such signals to the body. A child who gets lot of love in the family when grows up becomes the sweet person in the society and become truly likeable in the society. A child who is brought up properly without any insecurity or lack of love develops a secure heart in himself/herself. It means irrespective of the child is from poor or rich family it is expected to get love and good pampering from parents. Such child when grow up understands the difference between what is to fear and what is not to fear in life. It helps the child to develop a fearless heart too. It is important to teach the children the importance of ethics in life. Livingly ethical life is a way to true happiness in life. Which i see missing these days and out of this only the child when grows up in a man/woman compromises the ethics to 'What's wrong?' to pamper their ego. And then this What's wrong turns then into a horrible handling for that person, which leads to one type of continuous unhappiness in them. Constant communication of parents or parent with the children helps a lot in this process so teach them importance of ethics, morals and not to follow silly trends . It helps the child to develop an ethical life. Constant communication of parents or parent with children lead them to become sensitive to the other's problems as well as help it to become the responsible citizen of the country. I believe that -
In this era to live a life with values and principles is an expensive hobby of a person and anybody like that can't afford that. The special ethical person only can have it.
A fearless heart living with ethics and morals is easy to stay happy in life in the long run. One should be childlike, but not childish. The innocence like a child really helps the person in the life's journey. From the wise elders it understands to count his/her blessings in life, tries to become kind towards the people in the society who are cursed by destiny, helps to become compassionate towards the other people. It is very important to become kind and compassionate towards others. But again there are limits to these good qualities also. Implementing these qualities in society make the person satisfied in life which help it to stay pleasant in mind. The child learns to embrace what God is given to him/her and it stays thankful to God for it. With this the children to be taught not to give too much importance to their ego. Teaching them to let go of some things.
These days there is a new term is in picture that is 'Induced Poverty'. Some working parents can't allocate much time to their children and they may fill up that space by giving them whatever they demands. So the constant communication with the children may be missing. As well as the children are getting whatever they ask for so they are not able to understand how difficult it is to earn money and so they are not able to understand the financial crunch situation. So the induced poverty concept came. So those parents feel that they should make their children try to realize this thing by pretending in front of them that they lack money, this is called induced poverty. If they are successful later in this ; the children understands that there is something like this also, money is not easily available and so it helps them to control their demands as well as to empathize to their parents in this process. It may doesn't lead the children to feel disappointed as they could understand this concept, so they engage their mind in some other things also. But if they are not able to understand the induced poverty concept then if their demands are not fulfilled then they may timely get disappointed for their demands, become more aggressive and adamant to their demands and become nuisance to their parents.
2. Have Faith In God:
There would be different types of people in the world some who believe in God, some who doesn't believe in God. Some who believe in God and spiritual. Some who believe in God but not spiritual. Some who doesn't believe in God but practice some kind of meditation. Some who doesn't believe in God and not spiritual and believe in living the life without any values or principles. All the above types could be leading somewhere in life but i believe the last type is quite difficult because later in their life they don't understand where they are leading in life. I personally have very strong belief in God. I believe one should have trust in God and should not believe in superstitions. The entire human beings in the universe are the children of the Primordial Mother i.e. Shri AdiShakti. As i have borne in Hindu culture and got the spiritual knowledge from Hindu culture itself so can give references from Hindu culture itself. It says to fear God. It means one should fear God for not doing any unethical or bad thing. Whatever or how much the highest academic knowledge any person gains the knowledge is incomplete without the spiritual knowledge. The earlier anybody understands the easier life's journey is for that person. I am talking about the true spiritual knowledge. Spiritual knowledge gives the person the peace of mind from the chores happening in the life of the person as it gives understanding to the person what the lifestyle the person should adapt to gain peace of mind while fulfilling his/her devoirs as an individual. But i believe that while fulfilling these devoirs it is not needed to leave the family life and do austerity. While staying in family life and being with your parents, siblings, husband, wife or children you can practice spirituality. Only the thing is that the detachment part is more difficult during this but not impossible. Somebody like to explore this then the example is Raja Janaka(Raja Janak was a king in Hindu culture and Hindu epic Ramayana and a significant figure in ancient Indian history.
He was the father of Sita.) Raja Janak who was Saint inside but outside he was a king and living a family life as well as ruling the Mithila Kingdom.
When the person has faith in God, it understands that there is some divine support system which can help it if it gets confused in life, or something bad is going on in it's life. Even a simple faith in God work wonders for the person and it understands that it has blessings of God. Money is very important part of human life. But except earning money and running behind materialistic things all the time there is something more valuable in life to put time into also. It helps the person to live life religiously (here religiously doesn't mean sticking to particular religion. Here religiously means by following the principles of a human being; i.e. Human religion). Since last 12 years i am practicing Sahaj Yoga meditation (Sahaja Yoga meditation can be practiced by anybody; a seeker after getting self realization from a Sahaja Yogi. The seeker could be of any age, male/female, from any religion or from any country (https://www.sahajayoga.org.in/)). and i understood that the spiritual knowledge is ocean itself and there is lot to learn from it. It makes the person enlighten. When Shri Krishna told Gita to Arjuna that time He understood that for spiritual understanding Arjuna himself is confused of what is dharma and adharma if it is the situation of Arjuna then what about the ordinary human being so he explained everything in Gita to Arjuna which is ultimately to the entire humankind.
Scientifically also it is proved that practicing meditation enhances the mood of the person, relieves stress, increase productivity and motivates the person to try different things in life. As well as the people who practices meditation are more happy then others who doesn't practice it. So those people who practice meditation they are easy to stay happy. Only it should be true meditation. Now the divine knowledge or true spiritual knowledge is always free. Because it is the knowledge you have with you from your birth. So nobody should charge you anything to teach you that knowledge. In India at present in many schools and colleges Sahaj Yoga meditation is practiced. And Sahaj Yoga which is originated in India is already being practiced in 240 countries abroad. Recently i saw first time a new role opened in one IT company in Pune as Meditation Instructor. It's good that people are awakening to this trend of life.
